We often find ourselves juggling different roles to play in our families, careers, communities etc. Let’s admit it, sometimes all these responsibilities leave us with no time to take care of ourselves. No time to do something we love and no time to regain our strength back.
That is why these F.A.B. five ladies are here to remind us that we need to have those “mini” breaks for our sanity’s sake. Let’s continue to learn how to love ourselves more everyday so we can live our best life.
My favorite “Me” time would be going to the gym. Being a teacher is a very stressful job. Many people think that teachers have it “easy” because we have the summers off, but many do not realize the work hours we put in one day and on weekends. We take a lot of work home, and in order to be mentally ready for my students, and in my case, Junior High Schoolers 12-14 year olds, I have to be healthy and I need an outlet to release my stress. I go to the gym and workout. My favorite stress reliever is Body Combat, a mixed martial arts and kickboxing regime. This is my time to focus and not think about work.
My other “Me” time would be spending some time in prayer. I don’t get to do that too often because young children do not allow you to get too much quiet time. I know it’s called “Me” time, but I believe we all need some time with God to pray and reflect on our blessings we’ve received and to ask for graces for our needs and the needs of others. So, if you think about it, we all need time to be physically, mentally, and spiritually fit.
“Me” time is important. It’s difficult to be a working mom, spending 7-4 at work, picking up the kids, and going home to make dinner. I’m grateful for my husband. We share the workload and parenting as equally as possible. He gives me a chance to go workout and I give him a chance to go and ride his bike. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we’re no good to each other as husband and wife, and we’re not the best parents we can be for our children. “Me” time provides a chance for us to renew and energize ourselves.
It’s difficult to make time for ourselves unless we schedule it in. Just like we make appointments with others, we need to make an appointment with our self. I try to keep Saturday mornings and one other evening during the week to de-stress. It doesn’t always work, but I try.
In this generation when 24-hours seems not to be enough, having “me” time is such a delight! To avoid monotony, I do different things for my “me” time. I update my blog , I read a nice book, I do arts and crafts, I eat, and I learn something new.
Aside from being a form of relaxation, I consider “me” time important because it broadens my horizon. It helps me create something good out of the ordinary. At the same time, “me” time helps me discover that I can still develop myself to achieve my full potential as a person.
How do I make time for myself? For me, time management is the key. I make sure that I sleep between 9pm-10pm so I could wake up early the next day. Good thing that I am not a party person. I leave the house around 5:30am and usually arrive in the office 80 minutes before the start of our official office time. I use this extra time in the morning to read and update myself with current events. I also try to maintain a positive attitude. It boosts my confidence and morale at the same time it helps me to stay happy and healthy.
God gave us one life to live so we better make the most out of it!
Moving to a new country far from relatives & closest friends, allowed me to have a lot of “me” time. My favorite “me” time (as I am not an impulsive buyer) is window shopping. Mine though is a bit different – it’s having a stroll down the street market and boutique malls. I love looking at fine silks, textiles, statues and carvings, silverwork, handcrafted women’s accessories and artwork. Cambodia, the country where I am right now, has a lot of these treasures. I really enjoy looking at these things so I know what “pasalubong” to buy and what to get once we move back home (wherever that is).
For me, I should first know how to make time for myself to be able to make time for the important people in my life. I schedule and plan for it. I would normally do this when I know there is an upcoming holiday, when hubby is on a business trip, or when I end work early. I always believed in the saying “you cannot give what you don’t have.” It is only when we learn to love ourselves that we are able to give more to the people we love.
In the past, I would pause at least 3 seconds every time people ask me about the things I love to do for myself. Why? Because I don’t recall the last time I took a pause and spent the time doing things that makes me happy. I’d often find myself just looking at my phone, checking my FB and Instagram. That’s when I realize I should do something more productive & relaxing.
Hmmm… let me see. There are three things I enjoy doing – One, listening and singing along with my favorite music. (though I often sing privately as I don’t want anyone to hear my “secret” talent..hehe). Two, I LOVE baking. Baking and I have a love-hate relationship. I love the fact that I can be as creative as I want when making delicious treats. But I hate the part when I also have to clean all the mess afterwards. Three, reading funny chick-lit. I don’t know, I just feel young and good inside. I think it’s the Sophie Kinsella inside of me that comes out every time I transcend in the world of what I’m reading.
Today, I make it a point that I have my “me” time early in the morning/late night or the weekends. “Me” time definitely allows me to portray not the “Me- mommy” nor the “Me-wifey”, but just simply “Me”.
I have a long list of my “Me” time. Shopping, haircut, manicure/pedicure, baking & playing the piano just to name some. But my ultimate “Me” time is when I spend quiet time with the Lord. Somehow, I feel consoled and at peace every time I find time for Him. Usually, it is in the early hours of the morning that I have my “me” time. Having my quiet time helps me reflect on the desires of my heart and my aspirations in life. It also allows me be ready for the day ahead.
Having “Me” time makes me a better mom. I won’t be able to teach my daughter if I don’t find an outlet to re-energize my spirit. I need to take care of myself physically & spiritually so I can always be there for my daughter.
So what are you doing for yourself this week? Share it with us 🙂